SUS45 asked:
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. He was pretty much my first love and we basically jumped into a serious relationship (as in I moved in with him). We’ve been living together for over 2 years and he’s getting worse and worse as the days go by. At first, I enjoyed catering to his every need. Cooking for him, cleaning, doing all of the laundry. It was fun at the time, it was my first taste of freedom and being an adult, and taking care of someone I love. Now, it’s almost like he doesn’t know how to pick up after himself or put the clothes in the laundry basket. He will play video games every opportunity he has (which is before work, after work, and all day on his days off). He can’t even cook for himself. If I don’t fix anything to eat, he won’t eat. It’s…beyond ridiculous. I am 21 years old and I feel like I’m 40. We have a great home, great income, I’m in college, it’s simply a great time in our lives, and he can’t get off his **** and stop playing video games, or do anything else at that. He tells me “If we aren’t out doing something, why am I not going to play video games? What am I suppose to do? Watch t.v. with you?” He just doesn’t see the point. He thinks since we live together, that’s spending time together. Besides that, he doesn’t ever want to go grocery shopping or get out and pay the bills, do things we need to do. And sure, I can do these things myself, but why wouldn’t he want to with me? I don’t know what to do. I have asked him in the past if he could devote just one day out of the week to spend time with me and NOT play his games and he said “No.” His friends come over EVERY Saturday night, for the past 9 months, and I asked him if just US could do something on a Saturday, and he says “No.” It’s ruining me. I don’t understand. He wants to be with me, I know that. I can’t get him to understand that one day I’m not going to be able to do this anymore. I want to be with him for the rest of my life. I want to get married and have kids. But not if he doesn’t grow up. What if he never does? I’ve tried everything. I’ve walked out on him, I’ve threatened to leave him for good. Everything. Is anyone going through the same thing?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. He was pretty much my first love and we basically jumped into a serious relationship (as in I moved in with him). We’ve been living together for over 2 years and he’s getting worse and worse as the days go by. At first, I enjoyed catering to his every need. Cooking for him, cleaning, doing all of the laundry. It was fun at the time, it was my first taste of freedom and being an adult, and taking care of someone I love. Now, it’s almost like he doesn’t know how to pick up after himself or put the clothes in the laundry basket. He will play video games every opportunity he has (which is before work, after work, and all day on his days off). He can’t even cook for himself. If I don’t fix anything to eat, he won’t eat. It’s…beyond ridiculous. I am 21 years old and I feel like I’m 40. We have a great home, great income, I’m in college, it’s simply a great time in our lives, and he can’t get off his **** and stop playing video games, or do anything else at that. He tells me “If we aren’t out doing something, why am I not going to play video games? What am I suppose to do? Watch t.v. with you?” He just doesn’t see the point. He thinks since we live together, that’s spending time together. Besides that, he doesn’t ever want to go grocery shopping or get out and pay the bills, do things we need to do. And sure, I can do these things myself, but why wouldn’t he want to with me? I don’t know what to do. I have asked him in the past if he could devote just one day out of the week to spend time with me and NOT play his games and he said “No.” His friends come over EVERY Saturday night, for the past 9 months, and I asked him if just US could do something on a Saturday, and he says “No.” It’s ruining me. I don’t understand. He wants to be with me, I know that. I can’t get him to understand that one day I’m not going to be able to do this anymore. I want to be with him for the rest of my life. I want to get married and have kids. But not if he doesn’t grow up. What if he never does? I’ve tried everything. I’ve walked out on him, I’ve threatened to leave him for good. Everything. Is anyone going through the same thing?
I’m sorry, I know this crap went on and on. Thank you for taking the time to read it 